Becoming a Person of Character: KINDNESS
Tarzan, Jane, & the Ape: This is a full body version of rock-paper-scissors. Two people stand back to back and on the count of three, they turn around and act out either Tarzan, Jane, or the Ape. Tarzan beats the Ape, Jane beats Tarzan, and the Ape beats Jane. Play until there is a winner.
Tarzan Action: (pound their fists against their chest and say “Ahhhh ahhhh ahhhhh” – like Tarzan does)
Ape Action: Hold both arms in the air and make a scary sound
Jane: Put one hand behind a cocked head and say in a high, sweet voice, “Oh Tarzan!”
Seat Sister: Sit next to the person who has a birthday the closest to yours (this person is also the one she will discuss questions with when we talk in small groups).
Share stories around the circle or in small groups of a time when you saw someone do something really kind.
Optional: Play the song “The Christmas Shoes” (This is a moving song about a little boy buying a special gift for his dying mom…. get a kleenex)!
Share a time when you (the leader) were the recipient of an act of kindness.
Have the girls guess in their own words what it means.
Definition: To be kind, considerate, or helpful.
HEART OF THE LESSON
Kindness is a choice that we make. We can decide how we want to treat others. Feelings too often dictate when we are kind or not. We need to take out the emotion and make a DECISION to be kind to others, whether we “feel like it” or not. This is VERY DIFFICULT, but most things worth doing are a challenge. We will be blessed when we choose kindness, because it will reap great rewards in our relationships.
Diggin’ in & Discussion Questions:
Look up & underline Ephesians 4:29: Kindness is watching what you say. How does the tongue get us in trouble? How can what we say completely sabotage our efforts to be kind? Is the reverse true also? Can our tongues be used to move us toward kindness? Have the girls talk about examples of each with their seat sister.
“No rotten talk should come out of your mouth, but only what is helpful for building others up, in order to give grace to those who hear.” EPHESIANS 4:29
Look up & underline Proverbs 29:11. Kindness is using self-control. How can self control be kind?
“Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back.” PROV.29:11
Look up Philippians 2:3 Kindness is choosing unselfishness instead of selfishness. Why is it so hard to think of others before ourselves? Talk about how we naturally want our own way, and look out for ourselves. It takes intentional effort to NOT live that way, yet when we stop the self focus, we are actually more fulfilled and more content.
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.” PHILIPPIANS 2:3
Look up & underline Galatians 6:10. Kindness is looking for ways to bless others. Challenge the girls to start looking for ways to SHOW kindness to others. For example, if someone mentions that she really likes tulips, maybe for her birthday, you get her a bouquet. Or possibly there is someone who really struggles in your best subject. You can offer to help her in study hall that day.
“Therefore, as we have the opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.” GALATIANS 6:10
Look up & underline Matthew 6:37. Kindness is choosing love over judgement. We are natural condemners. Like a judge with a gavel in hand, we often slam it down in our minds and declare those around us as “guilty!” This kind of thinking will develop bitterness in us, and it will stunt any growth that could happen in those relationships in which that is occurring. When we replace the negative, judgmental thinking with thoughts of encouragement, positive affirmations, and even prayer, then our minds are transformed and we can lay judgement down, knowing that God is truly the only one safe with a gavel.
“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give and it will be given to you.” LUKE 6:37
Kindness Collage Activity:
Print out a piece of paper with each girls’ name listed boldly at the top. Distribute scissors and magazines to all of the girls. Have them make a word collage for each name with words they cut out of the magazines. Each girl cuts out at least one word per girl in the group and glues it to her paper. The goal here is encouragement, so make sure the words reflect that in some way.
Memorize two of the verses above.
Work on the next section of your Vicki Courtney “Between” book.